Thursday, October 14, 2010
The term mid-life crisis is usually an offhanded remark. When someone reaches a certain age, and starts doing things not considered to be age appropriate, it is referred to as a mid-life crisis. An example would be a 40 year old man purchasing a sports car. This might be construed as a an older man trying to be young again. The way I look at it is at this age they have earned the car. A 20 year old should not be driving an expensive sports car unless they can afford it. Even if they can afford it I believe they still need to pay their dues and anything before the age of 40 doesn't really seem to qualify. For the person going through these perceived changes, it isn't necessarily about wanting to be younger. The crisis a 40 something goes through is a little deeper than that. To me a mid-life crisis is not due to thoughts of your life being half over, it's due to questions you start asking yourself like "Who am I?" "What am I put on this earth to do?" We 40 somethings are looking for meaning in a life that seems not to carry any. We start searching for the person we are meant to be. That's when we change careers, cars, styles, partners. We get so caught up in changing to find "us" that we don't realize we don't need to do anything. We desperately look around for our authentic or true self only to come up empty handed. Right now I think I'm okay not to have all of the answers. All I need to know right now is that I am a soul here on earth for a designated period of time. I'm here to interact with others, to help others, and to learn. Above all I am here to love!